Self reproach

Self-reproach.There is no other human feeling as strong and disgusting as feeling of self reproach.Among the various reasons of experiencing it,the disappointment on expressing the inability to help someone in need is most painful.When the remedy is beyond human reach,it is still consoleable but in situation where one could have helped had it not been his folly,it is pinnacle of regret.Few months back,i was in my class teaching students and then a staff from accounts section approached me,he handed me a list of fee defaulter,I was suppose to call those names as in the list and warn them that their names would be taken off the roll on their failure to pay in next 2 days.I did exactly as a diligent employee should do but in flow of the moment questioned one student on the reason of non payment.His answer touched my heart.(there is no point sharing something which will sadden you too,after all thats not the motive of my blog,we here share ways to be ever happy,I do not endorse to sell pain)I deeply wanted to pay for his fees but was not allowed by my budget.I did nothing that day but cursed myself.Had i saved something all these years,it could be of great value that day and be of great help to this needful child.Somewhat similar feeling was portrayed in 1971 hindi movie Anand.Amitabh sir’s character curses himself and regrets his inability to help dying patient.So in this world where many needful is easily seen and found, i wish people to approach them as god’s messenger and release them of their agony,be by their side in this ordeal of theirs.This might be like wishing for holy grail.The entire idea is alien to many self-centred,heartless,machine like humans.These people are deeply engrossed in fulfilling their own,never ending wants that they have no time to atleast glance,forget self reproach.Most of the time,these helpless ,needy people crosses the line in anticipation and joins or forms a self help group,whom we call as members of darkened society.Is it entirely their fault?Is it unhuman to be in demanding position,no,crime is to anonymously push them into darkness,from where they will threaten our light, our hope,our peace.These now castaway still need help but their ask is beyond our capacity,we are forced to do nothing but regret and hope.The cause of all major problem,man made(which most of them are) is our self centred approach and when the problem grows out of proportion, we are forced to be mere spectator and indulge in retrospection and regret our missed opportunity to solve it in the very begining.So those with solutions should pull their socks and intervene in time or else will have to ……self reproach.If the fire is not exhausted now it will spread to our houses .

Simple as lessons in kindergarten

The lessons learnt in kindergarten always stays with us.They prepare us for higher class.Each junior class prepares us for subsquent higher class.So,should we neglect our k.G teacher while accolading our professor.while enumerating all the nutritious food,should we forget our first diet,mothers milk.In same way for the great awakening one has follow basic principles that i share in my post.They are not solutions to complex issues but merely guide which help you in the road to your quest of happiness.Since,I am myself only a human,so don’t expect me to share out of box experience.For sure if you master these simple,basics of life ,they will take you to stream of solutions.when i write,”there are people observing minutely to every endeavour other has undertaken”am I wrong?No,absolutely not….people have started pouring their opinions on my blog.They are not usual comments but more of criticism.Their first finding is-even a 15 year old is conversant with the chapters I am writing on.To them,”imagine a baby out of her mothers womb questioning and complaining her,why am I being breast fed,why not the stuff you ate while I was inside or will eat now that I am out(pregnant women eat nutritious food.but they are different pre and post delivery).A mother knows what should her child’s first diet be.Secondly I hate paraphrasing.I do not intend to sell things by changing the packet .I am learning and thankfully improving.I am aware of the fact that learning is never ending,all I wish is to build rapport with my readers and combine with them to attain what I started to attain(refer to my post objective).I follow up my post as i am doing now,to prove its validity.Ambition many have but not all work to achieve it and many who starts the work surrender to smallest hurdle they face.This is not what I practice or preach.On the contrary,i am motivated by each obstacle.so critics you need to work extra hard and end result is predicted..You will admire my simplicity.What I suggest is,we should use a sieve while dealing with our criticism,seperate the unwanted part from motivational and guiding part.To write the most complex sentence we still use the letters learnt in our crawling days.So why andwhat shame to teach them.Come lets not be short of determination and keep doing simple things,this alone can lead us to our zenith.As for criticism,martin luther was also criticized and by none other than pope.Now for simple and basic thing,Ghandhiji did not propogate anything new but reminded people what they had already known- importance and power of non violence.

Company and its worth

Books are chest full of wisdom.They are like good friend,who is bound to stand by your side in your hour of need.They are summary of immense research done by the author.Books enumerates the various experiences and its effect.Reading them is like living a life,they take us to places where we haven’t been to.Every book has some knowledge to give and every knowledge in your attic is useful.Books has entire space within them but are they more precious than a good company for a child .There was a great conflict within me to get an answer to this.So,I decided to do some experiment………..I have three years old sweet daughter and five years old son,he is sweet too.I provided my son with books,allowed him to play green farm and shipwrecked games ,he watched doremon and Mr.Bean but to my daughter I purposefully kept her away from all the above and on realising the urgency to introduce her to rhym books(I never had this doubt that books are your best companion but they can never substitute for human company) i sat to draw the conclusion of my experiment and believe me amazing facts were revealed.Daughter is liked by all as she spent her time with them.she had picked up great deal of knowledge by interacting with elders and there was variety in what she had learned as she mixed with people of different age group.Being with her brother she was well versed with the bookish terms.She was healthier (health being three dimensional,physical,mental and social)as compared to her brother ,where as her brother scored less on all these ascepts other than books,he has rough temperament and is not eloquent.Therefore i come to conclusion that if we have large and wise company they are bound to be of more use than the books.There were two friends,one was good with books and other was popular among people and on following their lives i found out that the later has a government job, he draws good salary and the one who was good with books is still good with books only,he merely manages by teaching assignment that comes his way.On further pondering on the subject I analysed that…1.books will take us towards other book and so on,similarly your company continously keeps getting bigger and bigger.This is era where smart work and team work is valued more than hard work.2.imagine….you can read 7 books a week and if you mix with people you read just two but if you mix with 5 people who each read 2 books you end up with having collective knowledge of 10 books which is more than what you can manage reading and staying disconnected from company.Hence,we should balance our activity and wisely select our company to be winner.In this attempt to socialise we need to bear in mind the objective to do so,because bad company has the same effect but in negative direction.Today I read…person is an average of is company…..which supports to the old quote”man is known by the company he keeps”.

Its only human

I am not a felon but only a human;I hurt but only myself;Ashammed am I, but aren’t others same?Far as horizon,you will see only people like me; I only stumbled and fumbled then why all this rumble;Not that others never tumbled;I have done my soul searching and only then I am preaching;All I pray is -you need not be sceptical;repairing I am,my hut of dreams,Fixing the hole through which my hope and believe was seeping;Roller coaster ride for sure it might seem but isn’t this what life is supposed to be;Come on!leave the grudge behind the scene and lets be in same team;After all,I am not a felon but only a human.(We all have committed our share of blunder but being born as human,we are gifted with the sense of self realisation.we have the strength within us to amend the mistakes but on road their are people who remind us of our misadventures.These people should evaluate their personal life before forming any opinion on us.They should instead praise us for our effort to stich our life.As far as we are concerned we need not be disappointed and lose hope by their critics and sceptical approach rather convince them by our deeds and if hurt by their attitude and words,forgive them and try to include them in your team.The team which which practises and propogates humanity).

Criticism

When single loophole can not go unnoticed,imagine the condition of a person who has always been on the wrong side of every endeavour he has initated.As if his pain caused by the regular defeats were not enough,the critics do not miss the opportunity to rub salt to the injury.Now, the defeated is burdened with the dual job of,one proving himself and second proving his critics.Most of the modern day critics do not fall under the category of friends,their intentions are doubtful and their criticism is not directed to improve the expecting disgraced person but to demoralize him.This worsens the condition.criticism should be healthy one and followed by some motivating and encouraging activity,and if done so it can germinate the story of great resurgence.This is what critics are supposed to do but majority of them do it to dishearten the poor soul.come on,show some sympathy atleast if you don’t understand the meaning of empathy.These smart people who play with the sentiments of poor defeated person should be conscious of the fact that,they may have to witness the story of of yet another phoenix.There is one more danger they face and that is,this defeated soul may change his course and join the darkened society and equipped with adequate arson may seek his revenge- revenge for those words and deeds that thrushed him into the dungeon.So next time you review someones work,do it to improve the person in question and not to push him into the pit.By this I do not advocate to put your words in sugar coating but all I preach is empathy.Life is not a grand slam or five match test series,it is sum total of small activities and sub-activities to sustain those activities,so let everyone live peacefully.once lived a mathematician,he had a son to whom he would regularly ask to improve and practise maths and each day would criticize him for his efforts.The son grew up to be renown in his own circle and was gaining popularity.Inspite of all this, father the master mathematician never praised him for his achievement and instead taunted him at every single opportunity.This greatly disheartened the son and in his rage decided to kill his father for his behaviour.He started feeling that his father was jealous of his knowledge in the subject.so,his mind made up,one night he went to perform the act.To his astonishment he heard his father explaining the reason for such behaviour to his mother.He said,”i do this to motivate our son to further progress and to be even better mathematician than me,the moment I praise him he will be satisfied and that shall be end of his study which i do not desire”.on hearing this the son was disappointed and felt ashamed for his decision which he had taken hastily.The next morning he went to his father and made his confession.Since then they started researching together and thus became good friends.This might be a great story with happy ending but not all stories end in happy note in life.Moreover not all critics have good intentions as the father had….has and not every time the aggrieved gets the opportunity to hear the explanation.Therfore we should weigh our words and deeds and visualise the possible outcome of such criticism that we are making.If you indeed want to demoralize someone,let me caution you,every one has his day, of failure too and the life like sea gives you back what you throw at it.If your intentions are good than harsh criticism should be coupled with some guidance and bit of encouragement.As for defeated hopeless soul,criticism is as light in the darkest hour which shows you the way.May this way be the right way and people witness yet another phoenix.

adultery

This post may seem to be a deviation from my standard posts,but let assure you it is not.I hope you all read my first post.If not,than let me profess the reason in one sentence to start this blog-To propogate the age old principles for better today and still better tomorrow.So how can we dare to neglect this issue.Activity which is solely responsible for our existence.All of us engage in this divine pleasure making act but ever wondered why in privacy?why is debating on the issue in public considered a taboo?Different pundits have different opinion on the mattter,but the essence of the answer is one-the matter is soley a discretionary between participating partners.Inspite of the act being a high voltage,pleasing and productive performance, its always and has always been considered a pandoras box which ,though tempting, should always remain closed,the moment it is opened it promises to unveil series of catastrophic circumstances.Yesterday I read somewhere(web)that over 65%women in america practise adultery.This is worrying trend as rest of world blindly follow them.The fact that they fear divorce makes the crime even more horrific.We should see this copulating activity as sacred.Going further in detail on the subject will make this post an outcast so lets leave it here,we all get intimate,don’t we, we all are masters on the subject aren’t we…so….period.However,this exercise is to be carried only with your spouse.(we are not talking of pre marriage sex,which I strictly do not advocate,neither are we talking of paid sex,we are talking of legal consenting, universally accepted copulation).We should restrain from hoping into one person to another.In this era of market driven society,where choice is in abundance,where people are attracted by packaging,where brand loyalty is an alien word,with lowest moral values, people are easily tempted to open the pandoras box.And shamefully many have already peeped into it exposing us to never ending ordeal.Just for the sake of moments pleasure,peep.We have become short sighted and do not dare to project the legacy we are leaving behind.what if future generation make further progress in this misadventure?These questions need to pondered upon.when in school we were made to speak on disadvantages of development,this is one.Marriage is laboratory where all your fantasy should be experimented,and incase of lack of chemicals master the theory.The only reason for sorrow is desire so stay content,and if some genuine problem crops talk to your spouse .Find different alternatives available and adopt the best,which is mutually accepted.And if nothing still works seperation is better than cheating.

Way of life

Who are you? A trend setter or trend follower or are you indifferent with the trend.There are people who change the the situation,there are others who change as per the demands of the situation and yet there is another category of people who are static,who show no signs of being influenced by the circumstances.This last kind of people are those who are engaged with godly matters,the are not bothered about wordly matters.The people involved in wordly matters can not stay isolated from chage.Change is the only constant phenomenon.Therefore its important to stay updated.we should be prompt,agile and elastic in our approach,so as to respond to change in prepared manner.How you respond to change is another matter and we will talk about it latter.There are people who set goal and starts executing their plan to reach their destiny.They change the situation according to their benefit while others change their goal according to prevailing circumstance.Both genre of people deserves accolades and neither of them is inferor to other,its just like adopting one of the two available options.A person who walks on wrong path either has to change the outlook of people,so that they agree to what he is doing or he has to change himself,so as to accepted by others.Both require great deal of stength and are equally challenging but former is destructive in nature and later is constructive option.All constuction work involves,cost,hard work,artistic approach.Pain and sacrifice are synonymous to construction.However,without any doubts in our mind we shall agree to the fact that construction is more satisfying and pleasing than destroying something.On may be very strong and capable of destroying but will always be haunted by the guilt of murdering the hard work of many.(destruction is mother of construction -is different principle and we should not mix it with our burning topic).so,when faced with situation which requires picking one of above options of life,one should always choose ,the option which is constructive in nature.This may invite series of difficulties and challenges,but never loose your hope and give up.When in situation,accept the fault,accepting is first step towards rectification,moreover its natural and obivious to make faults,but its only humans who realise it,accept it and amend it.further,small or big all have made and shall make their share of mistake.YOUR COMMENT WILL BE APPRECIATED EVEN IF YOU ARE CRITIC-CRICTICS ARE YOUR BEST FREIND AREN’t THEY?

Dreams

Dreams are wonderful,they are what urges us to keep moving,striving for excellence.Ambition are what leads us and gives us direction.Many live their dream,some change their dream,others keep chasing themand their are few who vanish cursing their dream.They are embryo of our destiny,they decide our success.One who does not dare to dream,hardly experiences the satisfaction in living a life,inspite of all the riches he may have, his is a wortless life.Now that the ‘term’ life has entered in our discussion,we need to talk about it in right perspective………………Long time ago,a scholar decided to devote his life in spreading knowledge and accepted small gifts in return,just enough to fulfil his daily needs.He would never,never means never accept more than what his necessity was,saying that excess would sow the seed of greed and this would divert him from his path.The cause of sorrow is wants and expectation,they have the power to lead you to hell.Inspite of merely being able meet his daily requirement,he was content and satisfied with his life.He would ask everyday,before every meal he ate,to his wife,”dear have you invested?”to this his wife answer in yes and then the wise man would add,”dear and have you paid back the debts?”,and to this his wife,who followed and obeyed her husband would again answer in yes.Their neighbour who herd this daily, went up to the wise man seeking explanation on this daily episode.The scholar said,”life should be spent selflessly and therefore i give back people what life has given me (knowledge).Here experience is investment and sharing them is life paying back.further I question my wife- has she give food to our children-investment,as the kids will take care of us in old age,futher still I ask my wife if my parents have been provided for-paying back the debts.On getting the answer and understanding the moral,the neighbour left with deep respect for the man and also vowed to adopt the lesson in his life.What we learn from this is-1. The more you have the more you will want and eventually you will be chasing the wants and most unfortunately have no time to enjoy what you have.2.People will look at you the same way you look at life and 3.your children will treat you the same way you treat your parents,they will be what you teach them and don’t expect them to be what you haven’t taught.Let people know you live,let them bring roses for you when you leave,let them pay back the love to your children which you gave then……….your feedback is eagerly awaited……..if you want me to write to or for your children who is going in wrong direction,do not hesitate to mail me with details of his or her misadventure,my mail id is-Satbuchi@gmail.com…………coming with new lesson with a related story.

Blogging

I am 4 days,5 posts, 2 about pages, old in blogging.dear friends as I had promised to keep my readers-if any and importantly myself updated with the progress that i have made,so shall i do without failing.I have designed an approach with the help of what i had learned long time ago. A.) I have set my goal straight.firstly,to learn to express myself,to be articulative,to share the things that i pick up while interacting with either books or people,to help others with my words,to speak in healing manner.Secondly,to prove myself and others that propogating these ideas are not in vain.To establish the truth about blogging as written by the blogging gurus,this i do by trying to do what ever they train us to do.Thirdly,make money-being intellectually occupied,staying in comfort zone of my home,staying connected with like minded people and makine huge friend list is great but not enough.To do all this and achieving first and second goal it will require money.If these are not good enough reasons to make money then let me share with you that I have two kids and I am responsible for fulfilling their wants.(I shall write on planning and subsequently sub-planning in coming posts). B).organising—To get to the target that one has set to achieve,one has to organise the resources.the assets have to becarefully andadequately used. C).No goal can be attained without the assistance of productive people.Therefore always try to be around efficient and sensible people..Again, we willelaborate on this later on. D).directing is the body if plannning is soul.we all know that that sphinx wasn’t built in our history books but in egypt.In short the plans are to be executed to get desired result.we need to get into motion and execute the plans , get the best out of the resources.we need to translate the the mind into physical action.example- a writer has to pick the pen and start writing so as to get appreciation.If he does not do so he will not be noticed, no matter how great his ideas are. E).co-ordination- there should be complete harmony of efforts.All the activities should be directed to one goal.the entire system has to co-ordinate with each other.collectiveness is the essence to achieve the desired result.Even in job like ours,where we work alone,for self and from home-we need to have a team and that too a co-ordinated one. F).No matter how well you or I plan,no matter how well we are trained,no matter how well our peers or subordinates are,there is bound to be deviation from projected path and its therefore important to be vigilant and take corrective measures at the earliest.faster you spot the deviation,promptly you will fix it and only then you will reach your destiny and that too in right time….which is very important is it not? G).research,report,remould if required, rest if you must,reshuffle your priority list if need and then only you can rejoice. Lastly,all the pros and cons should be timely evaluated.take your time and simplify the equation.calculate the the estimated cost and projected profit and never forget to make provisions for the loss that may be inflicted on failure.which however is not an option.On personal front,i have started on right foot,have been writing posts,making effort to improve with each article.Making sure not to plagiarize,reading what others are upto.virtually attending the training modules. FOR ANY KIND OF JOB WHICH IS INTELLECTUALLY ABSORBING,CHILDREN RELATED OR OF PHILOSOPHICAL IN NATURE,SEND ME A MAIL AT satbuchi@gmail.com

Ace of the pack

Someone,once said me that god gives sorrow only to his loved ones,whom his has already bestowed the power to overcome it.someone else shared that god puts people in trying situations only when he thinks that the person he is testing is worthy to be tested. LETS PROVE IT 1.Do we ask five year old to pick a bag weighing 20kg……..no 2.Do we plough land in desert…..no 3.Do we play music for a deaf audience……no Therefore,when one is in demanding position.He or she should not curse god but be thankful to him for the opportunity to prove your metal,further be grateful for the lesson learnt,since every crisis in life teaches you something new. Like every phenomenon te ordeal is sure to end.Pray that you bo ace of the pack and clear these examination with distinction,pray thay every one in similar situation will copy your approach and therby remember you.