Large number of people that we encounter everyday are critics,leg pullers,judgemental and so on,but they are not the ones we live for,nor do we live this life for the sake of people who expect so much from us and leave us at single failure.Then whom do we live for?We live for ourselves,we as an individual are reponsible for own act.Our sole objective should be self-contentment.However in attempt to attain it we should remind ourselves that it can be achieved only by adhereing to the path shown by god.By following each and every principle of humanity,by falling in love with him.We should aim at complete eternal is therefore essential to follow his teachings.This reference has to regular and deviations should not act as hinderance,rather to wash the dirt caused by wrong doing can be washed only by following his recommendations with regard to corrective step.We are often forced to make the comparison with people who give hell to these godly principles and yet manage to attain much more than us in this life,this also tempts us to change our path.In situations like this we need to remind ourselves,that this not final evaluation,rather its just one of many tests that shall be taken into account in his court.Which shall decide our standard of living in our eternal home.Therefore,each time you come second as compared to your opponent in this life,and irrespective of it stick to your path ,path projected by god,you score a point over your opponent on final judgement day.Judgement where judges are not influenced by wealth,looks,family background etc.Is this a game then,where one wins only when the other loses.Absolutely not,this is purely our personal identification and only our deeds matter and nothing else.Life is like a tree where our deeds decide the fruits it shall bear.Bad deeds mean that we shall have to starve when we go back to our home.Many become atheist because they do not get desired results after following the commanded path in their present life.To them the life after death means nothing.They believe in what they see and not at what no one has ever seen.To them,we need the eyes to identify his light and one who is wise to do so is dear to him and therefore is not present to share the experience.Belief and its magical effect is beyond human invented scale of measurement.OH GOD WHO IS PRESENT IN PEN THAT I WRITE WITH,YOU WHO DWELL IN EYES OF WHO READ THIS,YES GOD YOU WHO IS REASON OF EVERY THOUGHT,SHOW US THE PATH FOR WE ARE BLIND AND HEAL THE WOUNDS CAUSED BY THE WORLDLY DESIRES.


Self reproach

Self-reproach.There is no other human feeling as strong and disgusting as feeling of self reproach.Among the various reasons of experiencing it,the disappointment on expressing the inability to help someone in need is most painful.When the remedy is beyond human reach,it is still consoleable but in situation where one could have helped had it not been his folly,it is pinnacle of regret.Few months back,i was in my class teaching students and then a staff from accounts section approached me,he handed me a list of fee defaulter,I was suppose to call those names as in the list and warn them that their names would be taken off the roll on their failure to pay in next 2 days.I did exactly as a diligent employee should do but in flow of the moment questioned one student on the reason of non payment.His answer touched my heart.(there is no point sharing something which will sadden you too,after all thats not the motive of my blog,we here share ways to be ever happy,I do not endorse to sell pain)I deeply wanted to pay for his fees but was not allowed by my budget.I did nothing that day but cursed myself.Had i saved something all these years,it could be of great value that day and be of great help to this needful child.Somewhat similar feeling was portrayed in 1971 hindi movie Anand.Amitabh sir’s character curses himself and regrets his inability to help dying patient.So in this world where many needful is easily seen and found, i wish people to approach them as god’s messenger and release them of their agony,be by their side in this ordeal of theirs.This might be like wishing for holy grail.The entire idea is alien to many self-centred,heartless,machine like humans.These people are deeply engrossed in fulfilling their own,never ending wants that they have no time to atleast glance,forget self reproach.Most of the time,these helpless ,needy people crosses the line in anticipation and joins or forms a self help group,whom we call as members of darkened society.Is it entirely their fault?Is it unhuman to be in demanding position,no,crime is to anonymously push them into darkness,from where they will threaten our light, our hope,our peace.These now castaway still need help but their ask is beyond our capacity,we are forced to do nothing but regret and hope.The cause of all major problem,man made(which most of them are) is our self centred approach and when the problem grows out of proportion, we are forced to be mere spectator and indulge in retrospection and regret our missed opportunity to solve it in the very begining.So those with solutions should pull their socks and intervene in time or else will have to ……self reproach.If the fire is not exhausted now it will spread to our houses .

Company and its worth

Books are chest full of wisdom.They are like good friend,who is bound to stand by your side in your hour of need.They are summary of immense research done by the author.Books enumerates the various experiences and its effect.Reading them is like living a life,they take us to places where we haven’t been to.Every book has some knowledge to give and every knowledge in your attic is useful.Books has entire space within them but are they more precious than a good company for a child .There was a great conflict within me to get an answer to this.So,I decided to do some experiment………..I have three years old sweet daughter and five years old son,he is sweet too.I provided my son with books,allowed him to play green farm and shipwrecked games ,he watched doremon and Mr.Bean but to my daughter I purposefully kept her away from all the above and on realising the urgency to introduce her to rhym books(I never had this doubt that books are your best companion but they can never substitute for human company) i sat to draw the conclusion of my experiment and believe me amazing facts were revealed.Daughter is liked by all as she spent her time with them.she had picked up great deal of knowledge by interacting with elders and there was variety in what she had learned as she mixed with people of different age group.Being with her brother she was well versed with the bookish terms.She was healthier (health being three dimensional,physical,mental and social)as compared to her brother ,where as her brother scored less on all these ascepts other than books,he has rough temperament and is not eloquent.Therefore i come to conclusion that if we have large and wise company they are bound to be of more use than the books.There were two friends,one was good with books and other was popular among people and on following their lives i found out that the later has a government job, he draws good salary and the one who was good with books is still good with books only,he merely manages by teaching assignment that comes his way.On further pondering on the subject I analysed that…1.books will take us towards other book and so on,similarly your company continously keeps getting bigger and bigger.This is era where smart work and team work is valued more than hard work.2.imagine….you can read 7 books a week and if you mix with people you read just two but if you mix with 5 people who each read 2 books you end up with having collective knowledge of 10 books which is more than what you can manage reading and staying disconnected from company.Hence,we should balance our activity and wisely select our company to be winner.In this attempt to socialise we need to bear in mind the objective to do so,because bad company has the same effect but in negative direction.Today I read…person is an average of is company…..which supports to the old quote”man is known by the company he keeps”.


Dreams are wonderful,they are what urges us to keep moving,striving for excellence.Ambition are what leads us and gives us direction.Many live their dream,some change their dream,others keep chasing themand their are few who vanish cursing their dream.They are embryo of our destiny,they decide our success.One who does not dare to dream,hardly experiences the satisfaction in living a life,inspite of all the riches he may have, his is a wortless life.Now that the ‘term’ life has entered in our discussion,we need to talk about it in right perspective………………Long time ago,a scholar decided to devote his life in spreading knowledge and accepted small gifts in return,just enough to fulfil his daily needs.He would never,never means never accept more than what his necessity was,saying that excess would sow the seed of greed and this would divert him from his path.The cause of sorrow is wants and expectation,they have the power to lead you to hell.Inspite of merely being able meet his daily requirement,he was content and satisfied with his life.He would ask everyday,before every meal he ate,to his wife,”dear have you invested?”to this his wife answer in yes and then the wise man would add,”dear and have you paid back the debts?”,and to this his wife,who followed and obeyed her husband would again answer in yes.Their neighbour who herd this daily, went up to the wise man seeking explanation on this daily episode.The scholar said,”life should be spent selflessly and therefore i give back people what life has given me (knowledge).Here experience is investment and sharing them is life paying back.further I question my wife- has she give food to our children-investment,as the kids will take care of us in old age,futher still I ask my wife if my parents have been provided for-paying back the debts.On getting the answer and understanding the moral,the neighbour left with deep respect for the man and also vowed to adopt the lesson in his life.What we learn from this is-1. The more you have the more you will want and eventually you will be chasing the wants and most unfortunately have no time to enjoy what you have.2.People will look at you the same way you look at life and 3.your children will treat you the same way you treat your parents,they will be what you teach them and don’t expect them to be what you haven’t taught.Let people know you live,let them bring roses for you when you leave,let them pay back the love to your children which you gave then……….your feedback is eagerly awaited……..if you want me to write to or for your children who is going in wrong direction,do not hesitate to mail me with details of his or her misadventure,my mail id…………coming with new lesson with a related story.